I don’t believe that there is ever the clear case of winning or losing an issue in a family court dispute, and I often tell my clients that success is measured by different degrees of misery. If you really think about it, when a marriage is dissolved, assets split, liquidated and proceeds divided, or children are required to spend time in different households and not see a parent that they are used to seeing every day, how these issues are sorted out never really amounts to a victory for anyone, especially for children.
This isn’t a football game, there isn’t a playoff and certainly, nobody is getting a trophy. Anytime you place the facts of your case, your family, your assets in the hands of a member of the judiciary, you are always taking a risk. That judge, no matter how thoroughly they read the papers submitted by your lawyer and the lawyer representing your former spouse, will never know the facts as well as you do, the temperament of your children, or necessarily have the insight into your former spouse’s perceived motivations as you may hope they do.
As lawyers, we must deal with the facts as they are presented to us – we can’t change the past and we rarely change the law. A competent lawyer will explain to you the strengths and weaknesses of your case and how your individual facts fit into the workings of the law. A good lawyer, one who truly has your best interests and those of your family at heart, will never promise you a victory or tell you that you case has an “x” percent chance of success. We are not fortune tellers and even strong cases have risks.
Your best outcome is one in which you are prepared for the menu of likely outcomes by your lawyer and most importantly, where your lawyer is prepared to present your case as best they can with the facts they have and applicable law. We can promise you that we will be prepared to support your position with all of the tools available to us but any lawyer who promises you a certain outcome is making a promise that he or she will never be able to guarantee.
Rebekah A. Frye, CFLS
Law Offices of Rebekah A. Frye, CFLS
8 N. San Pedro Street, Suite 230
San Jose, CA 95110
t: (408) 200-1540
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